Invested

Being Invested

There is a difference between ‘being invested’ and wanting to ‘be invested’. It is the same when you ‘want’ something but haven’t taken the steps towards achieving your goal. I can sit here and say “I want a new house” or I can say “I’m going to buy a new house” and put together an action plan to do that.

Recently i have been caught up in a wide range of new life changes. In all reality, these past few months should have given me more content opportunities then I’ve ever had before. I neglected my creative writing mind and anyone who reads DDWDD (my apologies). Instead, I decided to make an investment in a few different areas of my life.

Where do I begin? Oh ya tha’s right—May 24th at 4:25am, my son Grayson Cody Williams was born. He was a small 9lbs 13oz. Our family is now officially complete (well we might add a fur baby or two but that’s for another day).

Now that I’m thinking about it, I guess we did this whole thing a bit backwards. Don’t people usually get a cat or dog first? Well shit—too late now to do it that way.

Along with the birth of my newborn son, the Williams household has been a busy one. My oldest will be finishing up her first year of school in about 5 days, even though she acts like she should be finishing her 12th. I along with a few friends and family members were able to finish our basement so that the kids actually had space to play. Now let me stop right here, when I can come home after a long day of work and the first thing I see is the actual floor well that right there might just be the most beautiful thing in the world. Having the extra room in the basement to hide kids shit in is what dreams are made of.

Along with everything that has been going on at home, I have also been given the opportunity to take my work life to the next level. This is something that I have been working very hard for and my investment in my job has paid off. Now this doesn’t mean I sit back and coast, but rather the exact opposite. This is where the real work starts, where I prove myself to everyone who has committed to me and granted me this wonderful opportunity.

I am INVESTED in my life with 100 percent of my heart. Sometimes that means you need to pick and choose where you want to delegate your time and efforts. These past few months were invested with my family and working towards an amazing life for my 4 crazy kids.

There are many things in life that I want but there are only a few that I know I will make happen. My family’s happiness and comfort is and always will be my number 1 investment, but it does feel good to get back writing for you. Enjoy!

N.R.W

 

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First Steps

A baby’s first steps are seen as one of the most important milestones in their small career as a human. As a parent, I have only had the opportunity to witness this momentous occasion happen with my boy. To be honest, I’m kind of used to missing all of the big ‘firsts’ with our children due to being at work during the day which sucks- BIG TIME.

What if we didn’t only see events such as a baby’s first steps as a huge milestone? What if we took each and every little action, thought, and emotion that happens throughout the day and celebrate them as well?

I know that for some taking those steps is physically impossible and I’m not here to leave anyone out of this. When I say “first steps” I’m not talking about physical steps, I’m talking about the first ACTION someone is taking in their day. I’m also talking about extending this mindset past small children and applying it throughout our lifetime.

I can choose to wake up everyday and find something to either be pissed off about OR i could do the opposite and find EVERYTHING to be excited and happy about. Our first thoughts of the day can be some of the most impactful ones.

I challenge everyone to wake up and see the good; even if life seems so fucking dark and not worth it, YOU’RE WORTH IT! Everyone deserves to wake up and feel amazing about themselves.

Here’s to the first steps of the day.

N.R.W

What did I miss?

 

It’s still 2018 right? No? Well shit, what the hell just happened?
Ok, so I still occasionally can’t sleep, I still have 3 kids (for now) and I’m still bald. In all honesty these last 6 to 7 months have been quite the blur.

“You know, a lot can happen in 6 months” is something I say more than I probably should. Yet here I am feeling like in the last six months I haven’t accomplished anything. I set some big personal goals for 2018 and if I’m being honest with myself, I didn’t come close to achieving them.

“I’m not mad, just disappointed.”

We have all heard this before. That’s right- we all just had flashbacks of the first time our parents blessed us with such fear. Can anyone tell me if they remember the first time they used that sentence in relation to themselves?

Now, just now, was the first time I remember. In case anyone is wondering, yes it still sucks. The dad in me is standing there with his hands on his hips and a “I told ya so” shit-eating grin on his face. The man child in me is doing everything he can from letting old shit-grin get the best of him but knows he was “told ya so-ed”.

I’m not mad really there is nothing to be mad about. I still accomplished a lot, just none of my personal goals were met. Here’s a little glimpse into our life achievements this past while:

My wife and I are expecting again this May! I know we said that after Paxton we were done, but guess what? Life had a different plan for us and we couldn’t be happier.

My oldest has started Kindergarten, figure skating and has set her first ever goal which is to learn how to read and write. Hopefully by grade 2 she will be able to help me with my reading and righting. (lol)

My middle child has totally found her own unique and crazy personality. She is so caring and warm-hearted, but at the same time she will cut you if you eat all the yogurt. At 2 years old she remembers lyrics from her favorite artists that include Leon Bridges, Post Malone and LP.  

And as for baby boy! He is walking, running, falling, climbing, laughing, loving and living. I don’t want to rub it in but “DAD” is the number 1 word in his vocabulary (to be fair, it was not the first). I’m not sure if this is something I should be worried about or not but he does do this one weird thing. Every so often he will stand on my lap and grab my head, and force me to move so he is able to look down on me. He then looks straight into my soul and headbutts me over and over again. Paxton: 1 – Dad: 0. #powermove

Well now it comes down to tackling the ‘being disappointed’ part. I’m not disappointed because I think I’m lazy or didn’t bust my ass off. I know I’m a hard worker and do everything I can to provide for my family. And I most certainly am not disappointed with the kind of husband or father I have been. Family always comes first. So why is it that I’m feeling this way?

Now I know this may come off as selfish to some, but the truth is that I’m disappointed because I am willing to go the extra mile for every single aspect  of my life except for the one that means the most: MYSELF. Yes you heard me, MYSELF.

Why shouldn’t my personal goals be a priority? And I’m not talking about the “take the kids to Disneyland” or “buy a new house” type of goals. I’m talking about the ones we all promise to ourselves when we have the “this is going to be the time I change the world” type shit.  We all have them- admit it. In my case, i keep telling myself that i am going to write a cookbook. I have started 5-6 times now but thats as far as i ever get. 

These are the kinds of  actions and habits that I believe could change a persons life. Now I’m not saying my life needs changing, I’m just saying imagine how amazing my life could be if I gave my mind and soul the kind of attention I give other aspects of my life. When your mind and body are filled with love and joy, you’re more likely to spread those feeling to the people around you and to the people who need it the most.

As I lay here in what is the last few minutes of my well deserved timeout (dad time) I ask myself to simply do better. Do better for Me, Myself, and I. If I can do better for ME I know that I’m doing better for everything and everyone that I care about in this crazy life. Everyone deserves a ‘do better’ moment, whats yours?

N.R.W 

Love Their Mother

If I can pass one peice piece of advise advice on to any Dads out there, it’s that no matter what, show your kids that you Love their mother.

Now I understand that there are certain instances where this doesn’t apply. I know there are some cases where you think this is impossible. I’m not saying you need to stick by their side and act like everything is rainbows and free whiskey. What I mean is, show the positive side of things: show respect and compassion. At the end of the day, you want your kids to grow up and have that fairytale ending with their special someone.

When we show love and compassion to our spouse our children notice. The same goes for hate and negativity. From a very young age, kids are subconsciously taking in these behaviours and mentalities which will manifest in their adult lives.

I have said it before and I will say it again: Be the kind of man your son strives to be and the type of husband you hope for your daughters.

N.R.W

New Dads On The Block

Come one come all, this is for all expecting and new dads! I’m going to compile a small list of tips and tricks that I feel are essential in the new dad world.

  1. …………
  2. Ya I’m still not entirely sure what I’m doing yet either
  3. Yes that’s right I have 3 kids.
  4. Make a snack for yourself?
  5. Make a snack for your wife?
  6. Oh shit that’s right feed the kids.
  7. Damn the small one got yogurt everywhere.
  8. Oh great he peed on me.
  9. Ok bedtime, nope never mind they are playing dodgeball in the room.
  10. Never mind.

Ok, here’s the scoop. My family isn’t the same as yours, and yours isn’t the same as mine. What works for me might not go over so well with you. If someone tells you that they have the key to getting their kids to bed with ease, do not trust that person because they are liars.

I like to put it this way. Regardless of how your upbringing was, you should strive to do better for your kids then how you were raised. Be the kind of person you looked up to as a child and give your kids a positive example to follow.

Oh I forgot one thing. To all the men out there with young girls: snacks, lots of snacks! They are just like their mother and if they are hungry they loath you entirely but if fed you’re like the goddamn king of the world.

N.R.W

Pecan Peaches

It all starts with a thought. I was inspired by a jar of peaches, not just any peaches a jar of my friends’ Nona’s Peaches.

What started as a day with hope’s of peach inspired pork loin slowly turned to Pecan Crusted Fish Tacos With a side Roasted Pecan Salad.

It all starts with Roasted Pecans,

Ingredients:

  1. 1 cup Pecans
  2. 2 tablespoons Brown Sugar
  3. 1/4 cup Peach Juice (canned)

Directions:

  1. Preheat Oven to 400°C
  2. Combine all ingredients in a large bowl.
  3. Place on a non stick pan.
  4. Place in oven for 8-10 minutes.

While I have these babies in the oven, I start on my Bruschetta Inspired Pico de Gallo.

Ingredients:

  1. 2 cups chopped Cherry Tomato Medley.
  2. 1/2 large Red Onion.
  3. 2 Limes.
  4. 4 cloves Garlic.
  5. 3 sprigs fresh Basil
  6. 1/4 cup Peach Juice (canned)
  7. 4-5 quarters of Peaches (canned)
  8. Balsamic vinegar to taste.
  9. White wine vinegar to taste.
  10. Pinch of Sea Salt.
  11. Pinch of Black Pepper.

Directions:

  1. Combine all ingredients in large bowl.
  2. Cover and let chill in fridge.

Vanilla Peach Coleslaw, the secret backbone to any fish taco. To me, coleslaw needs to be light, crispy and creamy.

Ingredients:

  1. 1 small Red and Green head of Cabbage.
  2. 1/2 cup Peach Juice.
  3. 5-6 quarters of Canned Peaches.
  4. 1/2 cup Greek Vanilla Yogurt.
  5. 1/3 cup Whole Grain Mustard.
  6. 1/4 cup Apple Cider Vinegar.
  7. 1/4 cup Balsamic Vinegar.
  8. Salt and Pepper to taste.

Directions:

  1. Finely chop both heads of Cabbage, set aside.
  2. Combine all other ingredients in blender.
  3. Coat the cabbage with the dressing in a large bowl and add Salt and Pepper to taste.
  4. Chill in fridge.

Before we get to the fish, I want to whip up the Peach Vinaigrette salad dressing so that it has enough time to sit and become its beautiful self.

Ingredients:

  1. 1/2 cup Peach Juice.
  2. 1 Lime.
  3. 1/4 cup Olive Oil.
  4. 1/4 cup Balsamic Vinegar.
  5. Splash of Red Wine Vinegar.
  6. Dash of White Wine Vinegar.
  7. 2 cloves Garlic.
  8. Tablespoon Whole Grain Mustard.
  9. Tablespoon Maple Syrup.

Directions:

  1. Combine all ingredients in blender.
  2. Let Chill.

Now that we have everything prepped and in the fridge, we can start on the Pecan Crusted Snapper. You can use any fish you desire here but I chose to go with a Red Snapper that I found at my local Costco.

Ingredients:

  1. 4 Fillets (your choice).
  2. 1 1/2 cups Pecans.
  3. 1/2 cup Peach juice.
  4. Dash Cayanne Pepper.
  5. Salt to Taste.
  6. Milk.

Directions:

  1. Preheat oven to 350°C
  2. Place your Fish in a bowl and cover with milk. Let this sit for about 20 minutes. This will take out some of the fishy taste if you are not a huge fan. I only ever do this if it is store bought.
  3. Place your Pecans, Peach juice and spices in a blender and pulse until slightly smooth. Just enough so you have a rough paste.
  4. Pull your fillets out of the milk and pat down with paper towel. It is very important to make sure your fish is dry when cooking.
  5. Place your fillets on a non stick baking sheet. Cover the fillets in your Pecan Mix and cover with tinfoil.
  6. Cook covered fish for about 10-15 minuets.
  7. Uncover the fish and place back in oven with broil on high till you get a nice crispy topping.

We have the fish in the oven and our toppings are making sweet love in the fridge and becoming their beautiful selves. All that is left now is to make our Roasted Pecan Salad.

Ingredients:

  1. Roasted Pecans.
  2. 1 head Romaine Lettuce.
  3. 1 Asian Pear.
  4. Peach Vinnaigrette Dressing.
  5. 1/2 cup Asiago Chesse.

Directions:

  1. Lightly Chop your Pecans.
  2. Thinly Slice your Asian Pear.
  3. Grate your Cheese.
  4. Toss all ingredients in large bowl.

WE DID IT! Now that we have everything ready our fish should be ready to go and its time to eat goddamnit. Now, plating your food is totally up to you so I wont go into details.

Thank you for taking the time to read through this. I want to hear about your attemps and success stories with this recipe, so please comment below. Enjoy everyone.

N.R.W

Do What Makes YOU Happy

What makes you happy? I’m talking genuinely happy. For some it’s friends and family, others enjoy pure solitude. Now let’s think about what can turn our days around without even noticing.

There are two things in my life that change my mood almost instantly. I’m going to give you a hint. It’s actually not my wife and kids, it’s cooking the food I love and music. There is something about the process that is absolutly magical.

It all starts with a thought, tguyhat thought might be “man we need to use up the mushrooms”. From that point I find myself physically and mentally rushing around to see what I can cook that I have never tasted before. In moments like these I find myself putting on music, these tend to be songs that I belt out during the entire process from start to finish.

Growing up my friends and I spent a lot of time at The Stretch cabin. Echo Bay was our playground from sunrise to sunset, often without sleep. I always loved to cook but this is where I found a love for cooking for the people I love.

I was usually the first one up, I would spend 5 minutes clearing the kitchen of miscellaneous beer cans and bottles of Baby Duck. Soon after, you could hear music throughout the cabin, as I was in my happy place. Bodies would start to crawl out of the bedrooms and off the couches to the smell of breakfast. This would go on from the moment we got up till the time we hit the hay. Breakfast, Lunch, and Dinner was where I loved to be.

To this day, I love to have my close friends and family over so that I have a reason to create a new experience. Food is a powerful way to express your feelings and emotions. To some, it’s simply a waste of time and only something they must do to live. For others it’s simply life itself. How someone prepares food can tell you a lot about that person.

From Hotdogs to Maple Roasted Red Pepper Gnocchi, I hope that everyone I cook for can feel the love I put forth. Give me a fridge full of food and some Biggie Smalls, and Big Poppa is going to make sure your tummy is fed and your heart is full.

N.R.W

Fathers Day

Ok so I’m a few days late. In all honesty, I tried to get this out on Fathers Day I really did. Here’s the deal: life happened. I got hit with three days of depression and migraines. Now I’m not here to make excuses, but shit happens.

It took me three days to get out of this slump. It took me three days to evaluate my mood and tell myself to smarten the fuck up. It’s not always as easy as it seems but like I said before, it’s up to me and me only to decide how my day goes. I let myself down and allowed myself to stay down.

Depression is about balance and being aware of your mood. It’s not always easy and the lows seem to get lower and lower. It might be hard at times, but it’s important to stay open and always remember to keep talking. Talk to anyone you can because bottled up emotion is a goddamn time bomb waiting to happen.

So again, I know I’m a few days late but……..

Happy fathers day to every Dad and Step Dad out there! This includes every single Mom, grandparent, Aunt, Uncle, and family friend who has ever stepped up when a child was in need.

N.R.W

Proud Daddy

Proud is an understatement, my heart is absolutly filled to the top with all sorts of feels.

If my house is anything like everyother parents then dinner time can be a pain in the ass.

Thing 1 – I don’t want to eat that.

Thing 2 – Throws fork on the ground

Thing 3- Crying

Tonight was going very smooth, then BOOM. That’s right all hell broke loose at the kitchen table. Two of the three kids were crying, there was rice and cutlery everywhere. The girls made dessert before dinner, chocolate mousse and Butterscotch pudding or “Hopscotch pudding” as my oldest calls it. We had a game plan, everyone eat good and then we were able to have two that’s right TWO desserts.

So the melt down is in full swing and then out of nowhere my oldest comes to the rescue. Her baby sister needs to eat 5 small bites of her chicken and then it was dessert heaven, however, she was not and will not calm down. So there she is, my first born baby girl, calming her sister down and doing the oldschool “airplane” move.

She has calmed her down, she gets her to eat all the chicken and absolutely killing the parenting game. My wife has the biggest smile ear to ear and says to her.

Mom- “You are going to be the best mom ever sweetie”

Thing 1 – Smiles and starts to blush “thanks momma”

My heart skipped a beat, my face hurt from smiling and I have never felt so proud in my life. Now for the people who know my daughter, at the age of almost 5, she wants nothing more then to become a mom. My baby girl absolutely melted my heart today. She is such a strong little woman already and she continues to blow me away with her positive winning attitude.

She took control of a situation and absolutely crushed it, at just under 5 years old she carried herself as if she too was a parent. I saw characteristics in her that I don’t see in most adults today.

Needless to say she got her two desserts and then some. It is moments like these that I do not have the words to describe how PROUD I am of my family.

What are some of your PROUD moments? Is there one that just sticks out in your memory or maybe you have a hand full? I want to hear them, comment below or tag someone who has a unique or heartwarming story. I look forward to hearing from you all.

N.R.W

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