Good Morning

I believe that the morning is the most underated part of the day. Why you ask?

  1. Breakfast is King.
  2. If you wake up late you get Brunch.
  3. Your day of opportunity starts.

I understand that the morning isn’t always the life of the party but hear me out. Each and every day that you wake up is another opportunity for you to have the best damn day of your life. Ok, your going to have shitty days here and there but remember, YOU have the power to turn them around.

I’m sure everyone has some nights they will never forget, imagine if we were able to live every day with that feeling. It all starts with a MORNING.

Good morning! How are you today?

N.R.W

Advertisements

Kindergarten

Orientation day!

Honestly I let my anxiety and hard feelings towards school get in the way a bit today.

My daughter is so excited to start her journey into the world of learning. As a father I’m excited for her. All hard feelings aside, there is a lot to learn in grade school and I’m anxious to watch her learn and grow.

Grade school was a very hard time for me. I went to three school by the time I was 9, which at the time made it very hard to make friends.

“Oh great not another boy!”

This was something I heard, from who ironically later in life became one of my best friends and she actually introduced me to my amazing wife. At the time it hurt but it was something I was used to. I was picked on a lot due to my size so I learned to hide my feelings and bottle everything up.

Always being the outsider I needed a way to “fit in”, so naturally I acted out. In “school” standard I wasn’t very bright, I did poor in class and well homework was not a priority. I hid my report cards and threw away notes from my teachers.

“if you keep this up your going to be no one in life”

“no Nick you need to do it this way, your way is wrong”

I knew from a very young age that school was not a place for me. By grade 12 I worked from 530am to 1030am then I went to school then back to work after class. At the time I had a 3rd period class which I would show up to late due to my work schedual and my teacher constantly harped on me for it. One day I had enough after he called me out in front of everyone.

Teacher -” Nick you come in here late everyday, your dressed in dirty clothes, you seem tired and distracted and your wasting my time”

Teenage Nick ” Oh I’m sorry, iv put in more hours already today then you will put in all week, so dont tell me im wasting your time” (there might have been some foul language in there)

Needless to say I quickly dropped that class and honestly never looked back. Now I’m not here to bash school, I’m not even entirely sure where I was going with that story but oh well.

Honestly I hope my kids grow up having the time of their life in school. I want them to have memories of their favorite teacher and “that one time in grade 4 when we…”. It turns out when you go to 5 different schools you end up with a lot of different friends and even more interesting stories. More then anything i want my children to leave school with amazing memories, and hopefully no debt(that ball is in my court I know).

To my baby girl, your growing up too fast for mom and me but that’s ok. Your going to learn lots both hard lessons and lessons that will come easy. Your going to make friends and lose friends but it’s all part of the process. Just remember to never stop learning, always go after your dreams and never give up on yourself. YOU have the choice to be happy and to enjoy your life. Listen generously, you might learn something from the most unexpected person. One last thing, BE YOURSELF. You are what makes you amazing, if someone doesn’t like it, so what. Your going to do great baby girl, go take what’s yours and never look back because you can’t change what’s already done but you sure as hell can build the road to where you want to go.

N.R.W

Migraines Part Deux

Ok so, awhile back I wrote this article about migraines. This is a follow up post that I have been contemplating for awhile now. I told myself when I started this blog that I was going to be 100 percent me, I’m not entirely sure why I was really contemplating anything. I have found 80 percent pain free days with the help of Medical Marijuana.

Let me tell you fine folks about how CBD Oils have literally changed my life. I went from taking 2 to 3 different pain medications a day, along with 2 different antidepressants, as well as having a back up (narcotic) just in case nothing else worked……. to NO MORE PILLS!!!!!

I know there are some of you who think it’s absolutely absurd, but guess what…. I dont give a damn what you think. I now live a life without a constant head ache. I went from having pain every single moment of my damn day to 2 maybe 3 hours A WEEK. I feel as if I’m free, free from something that has literally held me back from day to day activities.

I have changed a few thing in my day to day, minimal caffeine (I sneak a Coke here and there). I have now been alcohol free since February, ya that’s right no more weekend whiskeys. I also drink a Shakeology shake everyday. I have actually found that if I dont drink a shake, by the end of the day my head will start to aggravate me.

This combination has given me a new life, a life that I am no longer haunted with the possibility of being immobilized by pain. I feel like a new man to be honest. I do this super weird thing called sleep, all my medications before literally kept me awake until my body just shut down and I would sleep for a few days.

I feel as if I’m a better father and honestly a better husband. I dont scare my kids anymore when “daddy puked because he has a headache” or “daddy needs help walking because his head hurts”.

I’m not afraid to be alone with my kids, that’s right I was literally afraid to be alone with my kids.

So around this time last year, my wife was away on business for a few days and the girls and I were having a “girls week”. I ended up staying home all week due to my youngest puking about 3 hours after mom left. So we had a week of at home snuggles and tea parties, and that weekend we finally ventured out with Nana (my momma). We had a beautiful day at the park ending with some ice cream. We got the icecream and a wave hit me, a wave of pure agonizing pain. I asked my mom if she would watch the kids while I went home and slept for a bit. I’m not entirely sure how I made it home, all I remember was getting to my house and when I got to my room, I blacked out from the pain and woke up 6 hours later on the floor to my dad pounding on the door. This was why I was scared to be alone with my children. How am I supposed to take care of them if I can’t function.

IM FREEEEEEEE!!!!!!!!!!!

If there is anyone out there thinking about the idea of medical marijuana, DO IT. I’m serious, there are options out there for everyone. Get that “stoner” stigma out of your head.

My new life is beautiful.

N.R.W

Motivation Station

What motivates you? what motivates me? This is a question that I am currently having to ask myself.

When I started this blog I felt as if I could write every day. This past few weeks however, time seems to simply just slip away. Am I doing something different? Should I do something different? Did something happen? Am I missing something? Am I being the best dad i can be? Am i being the best husband i can be? Am i being the best me i can be?

These are all questions I need to ask myself on a regular basis. Not because I think I’m a bad dad/ husband. Not because anything major came up in our day to day lives. I simply do this because no matter what there is always room for improvement.

I’m going to be blunt with myself here, I have been failing myself and my family. I have been quick on assumptions, I have been to short with my temper. Basically i have been a grouchy shit head.

There is absolutely no excuses. There is no reason big enough for me to be anything less then 100 percent for myself and my family. For this I apologize, I know that me writing this isn’t a formal apology, truthfully this has been an amazing thought process for myself.

I started this post with the hope’s of motivating myself to get writing more. Turns out what I really needed was a kick in the ass. When your not giving yourself 100 percent, your definitely not giving your loved ones 100 percent.

So what motivates me? My two daughters, my big little man and MY WIFE. Telessa I’m sorry I havnt been present, there is no excuse and you deserve better then what I have been giving.

I have a choice too be better. We all have the choice to be better, Ask yourself if what your bringing to the table is just the meal of the day or the family favorite that gets passed down through generations.

N.R.W

Change

Its strange to me that people are so opposed to change. We, as living beings, literally change every second of everyday. From the moment we are conceived, life as we know, evolves. So what is it that people are so afraid of?

Biologically speaking, there is nothing we can do about change, each year we have a birthday and turn yet another year older. Well, that is unless your a women, teachers seem to forget that chapter in biology class that all women when they turn 29 just stop getting older. This is a world wide phenomenon that has scientist’s puzzled.

So, leaving the biological side of change aside, why do people get stuck in their way and avoid altering their day to day lives? Ok, I get it “dont try and fix what’s not broken”. What if I told you that change doesn’t necessarily mean your fixing something, rather you’re fine tuning it.

Let’s look at our life as if it’s a brand new car. You go to the dealership and you pick out that brand new blacked out SUV with the supercharged engine. What happens when you drive it off the lot? It’s not so new anymore is it, It might be to you but try and sell it back to the dealership and your going to get the old model rates. So you decided to keep the SUV, 6 months later your driving past the car lot and what catches your eye? You guessed it the 2019 model just came out. When you see that new model your going to be 1 of three types of people.

  1. The first will pull into the lot find a sales staff and drive the new model home.
  2. The second will drive past at first. A few weeks later after some online research will go in for a test drive and make a calculated decision based on price, value of “new” upgrades and “want vs. need”. Based on that they will either purchase or wait a few years for a future model.
  3. The third honestly didn’t even look towards the car lot and has been driving the same car for some time. No payments are the best payments.

There is no right or wrong way to look at this unless you have no money and are “car broke”. If you’re that person (which I was at a very young age) then your type of change is taking a step back and saving all the spare change you collect.

Just like in the car industry, change is inevitable. It might not always be for the better but I’ll let you in on a little secret…… if you dont like the change that took place, just change it again.

There are 3 things (in my opinion) in my life that dont need to be changed.

  1. My wife and kids (well besides the two youngest they are constantly getting poop and pee on me it seems like)
  2. My mother (she raised me so she must be perfect)
  3. Big Macs, it’s the perfect sandwich and if you disagree well then I must question your life choices.

I believe that in order for us to succeed in life, change is a critical step that we must take. This doesn’t mean you have to clean house every few months and start over. It simply means that life is going to keep moving forward if you like it or not. So, why not make your life the best it can possibly be with some much needed regular maintnace.

N.R.W

Sharing is caring…

20180503_005704_00018768275834547642970.png

When growing up we are taught the fundamentals of sharing. My oldest is at the age where every life lesson will shape her for the rest of her life, these are the foundation on which she will live by. This stage of a child’s life is up to us as parents to guide them in a way that will allow them to be the best version of themselves as they can be.

My definition of sharing and your definition could be polar opposites but that’s where we as parents need to make sure we are giving our children the opportunity to explore both. With all my kids I have found myself saying “you need to share” or ” remember you need to play nice and share your toys”. I’m at a point now with my oldest that sharing, now has a different meaning.

As adults generally we do not go around with our hands out saying ” excuse me sir, I noticed your driving a new truck, well its my turn now.” This is where my oldest is having a bit of issues, she is used to being able to do things because its her turn. To me this is where we as a society are really failing. We are grooming a group of individuals that has no separation between hard work and the outrageous sense of self entitlement. I teach my kids that everything they get to do is based on their behavior, no im not saying they need to be good little sheep that fall in line. I’m teaching them that a positive attitude and doing what is right will get them a lot farther in life then expecting the world.

LIFE IS NOT FAIR. I hate to burst your sunshine rainbow bubble but its true life isn’t fair. There will be times in your life that you see someone succeed that doesn’t deserve to while the lady across the street can’t catch a break yet she is the most uplifting positive human you have ever met. I’ll tell you right now that the lady who can’t catch a break doesn’t see it that way, to her she is simply learning another lesson that she will then SHARE with the people around her who she CARES about. To me that’s whats cool about life not being fair, if life was fair we wouldn’t be able to experience what its like to set a goal and achieve it.

I want my kids to grow up knowing what it feel like to set goals and to chase their dreams and to stop at nothing until they reach them. My hope is that when that point in time comes they know they don’t need to SHARE their reward but rather they CARE enough to want to SHARE their knowledge and help guide people to achieve their own goals.

I believe everyone should have the same opportunities in life, however I don’t believe everyone deserves them. As parents of the future generation it is up to us to teach our children that everyone has the opportunity achieve great things but it the ones who work for it that deserve it.

N.R.W

To: Mom

Thank you.

The reason I am the man I am today, doesn’t just stem from my fathers. The big reason, the main reason, is the mother I had standing behind them.

You always tell me you wish you would have been able to give me more growing up, and I never truly understood why. Everything that I do for my family stems from me watching my role model raise me.

You taught me that when I fail, it was only a lesson that I needed to learn. You taught me to keep my head high and heart full, because no matter what happens, tomorrow is a new day. You taught me the little things, like matching my shoes with my belt, and how to keep a clean house (which is extremely hard with three kids….Fyi). You showed me how to be compassionate, and to no matter what, help someone who is in need. It’s amazing the effect that you truly have on people. Every friend that has met you will always ask me how “momma” is doing.

There is this story of me and my friend Dumba going to Costco with her. We went off and lost her so being idiots we started walking around yelling, “mom! momma! mommy!”. We finally came across her and she was so red in the face and this lady who worked there came and said oh good, you found your boys. Well 2 years later she goes to Costco and this same lady comes up and asks her how her two boys are. The key part in all this was “her boys”, I am her only son but she has always treated my friends as if they were her own.

Momma, I love you. You’re the reason I’ve become the father I am, and I thank you everyday, for everything.

I love you to the moon and back again, around the world and up to the stars.

Sonny

I dont want to…….

It’s funny how inspiration works isn’t it? some days ideas just pop up by the dozens, then sometimes, it’s like staring into a pitch black room. For me it often comes with the help from a special soon to be 5 year old.

My oldest had a big few days, she had her first multi night sleepover with Ammi (one of the grandmas). I know it’s not a big deal to some but to her that time for just her means everything, especially with two younger siblings taking 2/3 of her previous attention. Within minutes of being home however you could tell the fight for mom and dads attention was on.

In our house we make sure we set aside one on one time with the kids, even if its running errands. The few hours spent with them allows them to open up in a different way with different music in the car or asking a million questions without being interrupted. I know for my oldest it’s hard because she remembers the old days where it was just the 3 of us. She is truly the best big sister a parent could ever ask for, 80 percent of the time she does anything she can to help us out.

Remember when I said “Within minutes of being home…..” well here comes the other 20 percent. I’m upstairs and I can hear my wife ask,

Wife: Can you please clean up all the books and toys you pulled out?

Thing 1: No

Wife: Um ok let me ask again. Can you please clean up your toys and books?

Thing 1: No. I dont want to…..

This went on for a few minutes, there was this tone in her voice and I couldn’t quite figure out what it was. I head down stairs, I’m getting frustrated with my apparent teenager and want to see how she acts towards dad. We sit down, I tell her it’s not nice to give attitude to mom and dad or anyone who is an “adult figure”. Out of left field comes more tude. Holy shit, mom and dad I’m sorry, that tone I could hear, was me…….

I’m sure everyone with kids at some point in time has used the phrase,

Do you think I want to go around cleaning up after you? No? I didn’t think so. So go clean up your toys.

Am I proud I said those words? No. Did I mean them? Yes, yes I did. Anyone with kids knows that when they are young they feel as if any attention is good attention. She knows that lashing out is bad, she herself feels bad about doing it. She will come over to me about 10 minutes after our talk and always say she is sorry and that she shouldn’t of done it.

What is the proper way of dealing with these situations? Is there a right way, or is every child different? I know that every child is different and that there is a wrong way of dealing with bad “tude”, I’m just not sure of all the right ways.

I’m not sure how my parents dealt with me, to he honest, I’m surprised I didn’t get Joe Dirted and left at the grand canyon. How did/do you guys deal with attitude? I’m always looking for a way to up my dad game, I know I’m not the perfect parent, but I sure do try to be.

N.R.W

It’s no coincidence

Life is amazing when you sit back and notice everything that is actually going on. I’m sure everyone has had this happen, when your talking about a specific activity or brand name and the next time you turn your phone on BAM there’s an add for it. Well has anyone ever noticed that when your brain starts reminding you of something or someone you just so happen to run into that person?

It all started back in early May of 1990 , Two young women met at St.Pauls hospital with the deliveries of their first born children. A friendship started that, then in turn created another friendship. My first friendship started 17 days after I was born.

Fast forward 1 year and there we are at my first birthday and guess who’s trying to ruin it, you guessed it my bff. He was apparently “sick that day”, dont worry a few years later I got back at him….well not really, more like I almost ruined his parents wedding when I feel off a water slide hit my leg on the pool edge and all the grooms men jumped in the pool to save me (my bad).

This morning I woke up and had a craving for some bagels, so what do I do? I head down to my local bagel joint and guess who I run into for the first time in years? You guessed it. The short conversation we had was a flood gate of emotions. This is a family that I remember his siblings being born and some of my only childhood memories have them in them. The twins are in university and the youngest is driving my heart damn near stopped when I heard the words.

It’s no coincidence that we ran into each other. There is always meaning behind these unexpected encounters. For me I was able to congratulate him on his soon to be fatherhood and I was able to hear something that might not seem important to some but the world to me.

” I love your blog, it has become almost a morning routine for me”.

It was that nod of approval you get from your brother and right then and there you know you did something right. Unknowing to them that small conversation was the boost I needed mentally, so thank you.

I told them we needed to get together soon so they can meet my wife and kids and that I was going to go home and write it down so I can make a point of seeing them. Well this is me writing it down.

Life truly is amazing when you sit back and think about it. Everything happens for a reason weather you like it or not. It doesn’t always head in the direction you want it to go but unknowingly it’s headed in the direction you need it to go.

N.R.W

Blog at WordPress.com.

Up ↑